Self Havening From Stress to Success

This is Part 2 of my ‘Change Your Life with Havening ‘Interview with Anne Jirsch.

Here I teach you a Self Havening technique I call ‘From Stress to Success with Havening’

Read and follow the instructions below so you can use this powerful Self Havenng Technique

Plus, you can view the full video interview at the end of this blog page.

Lets begin.

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ST: I’d like to give everyone an experience of Self Havening with a technique I call “From stress to success.” There’s two things we’re going to do. We’re going to look to clear up something in their past or something that they’re feeling anxious or stressed about.

Then number two, you are going to look at a future goal or outcome that you would love to achieve. Maybe a goal you have set for this year in an area of your health or finances or your business or relationships. And we’re going to do some Self Havening around that as well, where they imagine that goal and stepping into it and really feeling good feelings.

The first part of it is going to be clearing some distressful limiting feeling, maybe past memory. I’m going to do about three-four rounds of event Self Havening then move right into the positive future outcome or goal that you would love to achieve it.

There’s a few things we’re going to be doing. I’m going to be showing the audience how to apply the Self Havening touch which is carefully stroking the shoulders, from the top of the shoulder down to the elbow. I’m just going to focus actually on the arms today, even though we can do the hands and the face. We’ll just focus on the arms, and we’ll be using pleasant psychological distractions too

I am going to ask everyone to give the uncomfortable feeling or stressful feeling a number on a scale of zero to 10; 10 being it’s most uncomfortable, and zero being completely calm/neutral.

I’d like everyone just to take a moment or two and think about first of all, something that you would love to achieve in the future, something they’d love to achieve this year: a goal or a positive outcome. Just take a moment and think about that. If you’ve a pen and piece of paper, write it down. Something you’re working on already, something that’s important to you, something that you’d really love to achieve and actually make happen. Manifest into reality.

Now I want to give you a moment to think about something that they’re feeling stressed about. Could be something in the past, it could even be something in the present, something you are having uncomfortable feelings about. That makes you feel a bit anxious, trapped, uncomfortable.

AJ: I’m looking at it. My desk. It’s so much on there to do. I’m actually looking… I’m here but my desk is there. I’ve got it in front of me.

ST: The audience or whoever’s listening can also have something in their past. It could be a specific distressful memory or event that they’d like to shift. Okay so are we ready?

I’d like everyone just to take a moment and close their eyes. Think about first of all the uncomfortable feeling, memory or thought, that thing that’s making you feel stressed. Picture it in your mind, make the image big and bright and the images or pictures associated, really focus in on them. Any sounds, focus in on them, and those with emotions, negative emotions and feelings that are attached. I’m going to give 20 seconds to really go into it to activate the amygdala.

Go to the most distressful or uncomfortable aspect or part of that thought or memory. Notice on a scale of zero to 10 how high it goes. Go to the very worst part of this. Make it go as high as you can, then open your eyes.

Open your eyes, Anne and everyone. Just look at me. Then put one hand on your right shoulder, one hand on your left shoulder, just crossing your arms and begin gently stroking from the top of your shoulder down to your elbow to begin Self Havening

Think of stroking an animal, a cat or you’re comforting a small child. Firm but gentle strokes. Keep doing that consistently throughout the technique. And close your eyes and imagine walking out onto a beautiful beach, on a bright summer’s day as you continue Self Havening.

Picture a beautiful bright blue sky, yellow golden sand, the sound of waves lapping against a sea shore. Like you’re on a beautiful tranquil holiday and you can see the sunlight sparkling off the ocean waves. Just imagine that. With every step you imagine taking on this tranquil beach, count out loud from one to 20 with every step you imagine taking. One, two, three, four, five, six, relaxing with every step. Seven, eight, nine, 10, 11, 12, imagine a few seagulls flying by. 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20.

Now hum a little song as well. The distraction part is very good for getting the old negative memory/thought out of your working memory. So let’s hum “Happy Birthday” together.

Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday, dear Anne, happy birthday to you.

Happy birthday to you, (humming) Happy birthday dear (humming) happy birthday to you.

Very good. Keep Self Havening. Taking a slow gentle breath. Just keep stroking, we call this Havening touch. Just stroking. This is flooding your brain with all these lovely delta waves, slowing your brainwaves right down. It’s also increasing serotonin, oxytocin, GABA, all these feel-good neuro chemicals.

Then notice noticing on a scale of 10 to zero, what number are you at right now? Whatever number comes to mind, just become aware of it. Then I’d like everyone to count out loud backwards from 30 to zero in twos, out loud, relaxing with every number.

I’ll begin. 30, keep stroking. 28, 26, 24, 22, 20, 18, 16, 14, 12, keep stroking, 10, eight, six, four, two, zero. Then I’d like everyone to hum “Twinkle Star.”

Twinkle, twinkle, little star, how I wonder what you are. Up above the world so high, like a diamond in the sky. Twinkle, twinkle, little star, how I wonder what you are.

The distraction does seem a bit strange but it really helps to displace the old memory out of something called your working memory.  Keep Self Havening and taking in slow gentle breaths. Just keep stroking, relaxing as you breathe all the way out. Notice that sensory touch, that feeling, stroking in a calm, gentle way.

Then notice, noticing on a scale of 10 to zero where you are right now. Just go with the first number that comes to mind. Then we’re going to do one more round of Self Havening on this.

And this time I’m going to ask everyone to imagine walking into a beautiful park or a scene of nature, maybe somewhere where you love to walk. Maybe a peaceful place with trees, maybe a river or a lake and it’s a beautiful spring or summer’s day. Begin to imagine that in your mind.

As you walk through this beautiful park or landscape, with every step you imagine taking, as you keep stroking, count out loud from one to 20.. One, two, three, four, five, six, and imagine seeing what you see as you walk through this beautiful place. It’s a lovely spring or summer’s day. Every step you take causes you to relax. Good. Then let’s hum “Row your boat” together.

Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream, merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.

Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream, merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.

Taking slow gentle breaths. Very good. Now this time, I’d like everyone to continue their Self Havening but to start thinking about your goal. That future outcome that you’d love to achieve.

Begin to imagine it now in front of you and make the image seem big and bright, as if you can see yourself achieving that goal right in front of you, like a big movie screen. See the final positive outcome of you achieving that goal right now. Make it look exactly the way you’d like it to be until it feels just right. Until you feel a sense of inner inspiration and excitement, and inner motivation to really achieve that goal now.

Just visualize it as best as you can. Imagine floating up and out of your body and right into that positive future, and imagine stepping right into that goal. Right into that final outcome. Seeing what you’ll see, imagine what you’re seeing, what you’re hearing, and what you’re feeling. Imagine how good that feels. You’ve actually achieved the goal and imagine all the positive benefits it brings you and how important it is to you. Imagine that sense of achievement and well being it gives you, and how it changes your life.

Over the coming hours and days, you can continue imagining this goal. You can continue Self Havening like this, and every time you do, you can imagine this goal. Every time when you are Self Havening like this, you can imagine this goal. Every time you self-haven like this you can imagine this goal, and it gets even more clearer, brighter and the positive feelings get even stronger. You feel spontaneously inspired to achieve this goal and to align your thoughts, actions, and behaviours with the achievement of manifesting this goal.

Now, as I count from one to five, at number five, I’d like everyone to open up their eyes, they can take a little stretch if they wish. Feeling much more calm, relaxed and at ease. Starting at one, rising all the way up to two, taking a deeper breath at three, four, five. Eyelids opening, fully aware. Take a little stretch if you wish. Just taking a moment to relax.

AJ: That was really interesting. I mean the stress thing went down, I got  to 2.3, so that was really interesting. It was eight-point something, so it went down to 2.3. That was really nice. When you’re not stressed, you deal with stuff better, don’t you?

ST: Yes.

AJ: That was really good. Yes, it was really nice.

ST: I’d like everyone who’s done the Self Havening process with us  to check.where you are on the scale from 10 to zero. Where you are on that old negative thought, memory, or feeling.

If it’s not completely at a zero, you can do a few more rounds of Self Havening, that often brings it down to zero. When we’re working with clients one-to-one, if something doesn’t drop completely to a zero, there can be many reasons. But it can often mean there’s another memory or event or aspect of that event that needs to be ‘Havened’ or looked at. Or it could be even an earlier event that’s associated to that actual negative feeling.

AJ: For me, I didn’t want it to go below 2.3 because otherwise I’m not going to clear me bloody office up, am I? I’m going to leave it as it is and just go, you know. I need to have that little bit of…

Guys, if you’ve got any questions for Stephen, can you ask them now? And I’d love to know where were you on that scale and what did you bring it down to? Or could you really visualize yourself? Give us some feedback, that’d be really interesting.

I could really feel that. That was really nice. My arms are aching a bit, there’s a lot of rubbing but it’s good, isn’t it? I do feel different. I don’t feel stressed about it. I genuinely don’t feel stressed about it as much. I’m just kind of a bit more… When you’re not stressed, you deal with it.

Straight away my mind is going, “If I tackle that now then a bit later I’ll do that, I could clear that.” Whereas before I was just kind of a bit overwhelmed with it all. Now I am seeing it a bit more logically, so it’s kind of got rid of that overwhelm.

ST: Yes it helps to down-regulate the stress. When you feel less stressed, you’re generally more resourceful, calmer, you can think more clearly. You have to remember, this is just a taste of  Self Havening. I’m just giving you a small snapshot, just to give you a taste of it because as you know when someone havens you it can also be quite a different experience.

AJ: Absolutely. Tell me how long is the training to be a Havening practitioner?

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ST: We have a training coming up. I’m delighted to say that we actually have Dr Steven Ruden coming all the way over from the US (the co-creator and developer of Havening) to Dublin on the 6th and 7th of April of this year, which is when the training’s on.

Dr Ruden and myself are presenting the two days, each day runs from 9:00–6:00 pm. It is going to be jam packed full of live demonstrations. Us teaching you how to use all the Havening Techniques for yourself, friends, family, clients.

It is a interactive training and we’ll be covering all the neuroscience as well. Teaching you how to use Havening to obviously overcome all the anxiety-based disorders and trauma, issues we talked about. How to treat things like cravings, compulsions, build resiliency, confidence.

There’s a lot over that weekend and it’s an opportunity for people to come along if they have some own issues themselves they’d like resolve. As an emotional detox you could say. That’s the 6th and 7th of April in Dublin. We already have 50 people booked in.

AJ: Wow. That’s a lot. That’s amazing

ST: It’s going to be a big training.

AJ: It sounds brilliant. As I say, I can feel the difference. Julie said down from eight to two, quite a surprise. Feliciana said for more details, go to She’s good at marketing.

ST: is the official Havening website, so there’s lots of great information there, there’s videos, etc, so a good place to go to.

AJ: Afterwards, if you could put in the comments to this your details and any promos you’ve got, it could be training, anything. Feliciana said, “Havening’s changed my life.”


  • Audience comments: Thank you I needed that
  • Audience Comments: Wow, I haven’t heard of this. It was brilliant, thank you.
  • Audience comments: Great. I’ve done a bit before but really felt that.


AJ:That’s great feedback there. I’ve really enjoyed that. That was amazing.

I’d love you to post up your details because to me it’s like.. Let’s just say we try different things. There’s a lot of things we’ll go, oh yeah, and there’s nothing happening but I can actually feel something quite almost physical. I can actually feel myself going into a different space. It’s something coming from the good people that do this. That’s why I asked if you could come on because it’s very interesting.

I also think it’s something about people genuinely, as I say, I’ve met Ronald Ruden. You meet him and you just know. He doesn’t need to do this, he’s a top medical doctor. He doesn’t need to do this. He isn’t somebody just churning out yet another therapy. He’s actually found something that he knows he’s got to get out. It really comes across the genuineness of it.

ST: Yes. The doctors Ronald and Stephen Ruden they’re two of the most nicest and most genuine people you can meet.

They’ve developed something unique. The reason why I’m such a big fan of Havening is not only for the results; it’s the consistency of the results. I’ve never come across a method, a set of techniques or a therapy that’s so consistent in delivering results for my clients. Because there are lots of other good things out there but Havening, the consistency of it is quite remarkable.

AJ: That I understand because one of the things that drew me to Future Life Progression was we kept seeing things and then they happened. They weren’t a fluke. It’s like every time, people see where they’re living, or their future, their husband or wife and they would meet them. Three times I’ve moved into properties that I’ve previously seen that I had no idea where they were. When you consistently get results, you say I’m onto something there.

Louise said, “I’ve recorded that session on focus band, Steve. I’ll post the picture of the session averages.” I don’t know what that means but hopefully you do.

ST: The focus band shows a lot of what’s happening in the brain, the delta waves, etc.

You can actually see what ‘s happening in the brain waves. There’s all these technologies coming online that we currently use in Havening to really showcase what’s happening in the brain and the body. If people are interested in the training, there’s literally seven places left because if we take on more people, I’m going to have to get a bigger hotel room.

If you want to sign up go to

There’s lots of free information there about Havening, there’s videos, there’s lots of client testimonials. I write a weekly/monthly blog and there’s loads of information with all the different Havening techniques and some techniques you can do there as well. If they have any questions, they can contact me direct at [email protected]. I’ll put some information up as well there, though.

AJ: Post it up. That’s brilliant because people will be looking on here and a lot of people watch this later when they get home from work or whatever.

Stephen, it’s been an absolute pleasure. I do genuinely feel really good, so thank you for that. I feel good. I’m sure everybody else does and this will continue to be watched. Thank you so much and we’ll talk again.

ST: Thank you for having me, Anne. It was a pleasure.

AJ: Feliciana said get a bigger room, Stephen. There you go. I have to come on the training at some point I think you and Yvonne are going to try out, should you go on the FLP with me or we’ll come on yours. Thank you so much, I’ll talk to you again. Take care.

ST: Take care. Thank you, Anne.