This Havening trauma video demo below from one of my online training events shows you the rapid and astonishing healing results Havening achieves in resolving traumatic memories.
The full transcript of the session is under the video.
Havening trauma pretalk
Stephen Travers : So, what we’re going to do next is a live Havening trauma demo to actually show you what Havening can do. And I think Ina put out an email there a week or two ago, inviting one of you to do the demo. Well, we got several emails and we actually have someone I only spoke to them about two days ago for about 10 minutes.
So, I’ve never, you know, met this person before. It’s just, it was a short phone call and I’m going to invite her to come forward. I’m going to talk a little bit about the issue so you can understand what we’re actually working on, because it is a pretty major traumatic memory we’re going to work on and that we’re going to do the Havening trauma demo of. So, Marie and probably saying that completely wrong, excuse my pea brain for a moment. But Marie, if you’d like to come forward.
Client: I’m here. You did a good job on my name.
Stephen Travers: Thank you. You’re a good liar. I am only joking. Now let me see if I can bring you onto my speaker. Okay. So, we spoke, I think it was about two, three days ago. And you also told me about what the issue is or some of the issues, but could you just share a little bit about what the presenting problem is Marie?
Client: When I was three years old, I was so distracted with playing outside that I always went too late to the toilet, a little bit too late. And one day my mom was so fed up with it that when visitors were in the house, she commanded me very angry to put out my PJ pants and underpants and looked at my underpants and saw that I was a little bit of pee inside. And she was so angry that she pushed my underpants in my face and yelled at me. And I looked at my father who said, my mother was in front of me and father was at my back.
So, I turned around to look at my father for help. And I saw his eyes were very, he was very much in shock, but he didn’t say anything. And when I looked back at my mom, her eyes, which were blue, were almost black. And at that moment, I felt and translated many, many years later, that was pure hate back then there.
Stephen Travers: You mentioned to me, but scary eyes as well.
Client: Yeah. Her eyes were black, almost black and scary.
Stephen Travers: Okay. And there were other people in the room when that happened to you?
Client: Yeah. My two aunts and an uncle and my older brothers and sisters, but they were in the other room playing and they didn’t notice much.
Stephen Travers: So, this was all happening in front of the adults in the room, the aunt as well. And you are just a kid. Okay. And I think you like on the phone call; I was checking a few things. There was still an emotional charge around that memory. And I think you mentioned you’d done some hypnotherapy, and correct me if I’m wrong. I think you’d mentioned some tapping as well, maybe.
Client: EMDR. And also, things about, with myself, with the hypnotherapy, hypnosis and EST. But when you spoke to me, I I realized when you asked me, I realized, damn it, sorry for my speech. It’s still there.
Stephen Travers: See, when you learn these Havening trauma techniques, you learn what to look for. You learn how to pinpoint and identify and precision where the traumas are. And you can do that quite quickly, which is often the key to getting great results. Now, in a few moments, we’re going to do the demo, Marie. And I’ll just explain to you and everyone what we’re going to do. Not yet, but in a moment or two. A few moments, I will ask you to close your eyes, not yet, and go back to that memory. Seeing what you saw, remembering what you heard, and remembering how you felt.
I will ask you on the scale of zero to 10, the subjective units of distress before the Havening trauma technique. 10 is extremely distressed, zero is completely calm. How high you’d go. We’re going to activate you [inaudible]these trauma receptors that are encoded there. Once we do that, and you give me a number, I’ll say clear your mind, and we’ll begin the Havening touch.
Very gently on the arms, I’ll be doing it with you. Very gently on the palms, soft and gentle, and very gently on the face. Like you’re washing your face. I will simultaneously distract you. So, I will ask you to imagine walking on a beautiful beach, like the beach behind you, I may get you to hum a little song like jingle bells, or happy birthday, or row row your boat.
And we’ll do some lateral eye movement from left to right. Very gentle. And we’ll keep the stroking going. And I’ll ask you how far down the scale you’re dropping after each round, whatever number comes to mind, just call out the number. Then we’ll do a debrief at the end or a test and bring it back to the memory and see what has changed.
There’s no right or wrong answers to this. I don’t know what’s going to happen. Even though I’ve done thousands and thousands of these Havening trauma, but that’s what we’re going to do. With the distractions, by the way, are you okay with walking on the beach, walking through a park, humming happy birthday, row your boat. Jingle bells. Are they all okay distractions?
Client: That’s okay for me..
Stephen Travers: By the way, the word Havening comes from the word Haven, a Safe Haven that were bringing you to a safe place. It goes back to the idea that when you’re born, you cry, you don’t be abandoned as a little baby. And when you’re put into your mother’s arms, you know, that you’re safe. That sensory is hardwired from the moment we’re born that’s part, the reason why it works, just a little insight. We may do some mind games as well. Do you like movie stars or actors? You watch movies?
Client: Brad Pitt, of course.
Stephen Travers: Okay. So are you ready?
Client: Yes.
Havening Trauma Demo
Stephen Travers: When you’re ready, just close your eyes, that’s it. And with your eyes closed, and as you hear my voice, Marie, I’d like you to go back to that memory when you were a child, around two to three years of age. For that event that happened with your mom, dad, and your Aunties. Picture what you saw as if you’re seeing it again through your own eyes. Remember what you heard and remember the way it made you feel. Make the image big and bright and go to the very worst part of the memory. Notice how it feels in your body. Notice what emotions there on a scale of zero to 10. What number comes to mind?
Client: 10.
Stephen Travers: You feel a ten right now?
Client: Yeah.
Stephen Travers: Open up your eyes. Look at me. Clear your mind as we begin this Havening trauma demo. Take your hands, Marie, and very gently start stroking down your arms. That’s it. You can look at me soft and gently, like a gently massage. That’s it. Nice and soft. Very good.
And gently close your eyes and imagine walking on a beautiful beach, like the beach behind you. Imagine a clear blue sky, palm trees, and the white foamy waves coming in and you’re walking along the beach. Maybe you’re walking barefoot and you’re on a beautiful holiday on that beach. With every step you imagine taking on this beautiful peaceful beach, count out loud from one to 20 with every step you imagine taking.
Client: 1, 2, 3.
Stephen Travers:Relaxing with every step.
Client: 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9.
Stephen Travers: It’s. Okay.
Client: 11.
Stephen Travers: Imagine a few seagulls flying by in the sky
Client: 12.
Stephen Travers: And the sound of the waves.
Client: 13, 14.
Stephen Travers: Imagine the smell of the salty sea air. That lovely, fresh smell of the sea.
Client: 17, 18, 19, 20.
Stephen Travers: That’s it, keep stroking. And then I’d like you to sing. Row your boat with me. Let’s go.
Both: Row, row row your boat, gently down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream. Row, row row your boat, gently down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.
Stephen Travers: Now let’s hum. Very good. Keep stroking, and open up your eyes and just keep stroking. And look at my finger and lastly move your eyes sideways to the right hand side of the room, all the way over to the right, then all the way over to the left, then all the way over to the right. All the way over to the left, all the way to the right, all the way to the left, all the way to the and left and all the way to the right and the left.
Then right, then left, then right, then left, then right, then left. And right, then left. That’s very good. Then right, then left. That’s okay. Then just close your eyes. Relax your eyes, keep stroking and take in a slow, gentle breath, nice and easy. Keep stroking. On a scale of 10 to zero. What number comes to mind now? The first number? Keep stroking.
Client: Six.
Stephen Travers: Good. Now look at me. Let’s gently move through our palms. You may have an activation somatic autonomic activation there. Maybe your hands were a we bit sweaty. Okay. Keep stroking. Soft and often gently stroking. Then let’s close our eyes and let’s think of famous movie stars and actors. And I want to start, I’ll call out one and you do one. We’ll do about 20. I really want you to picture them thought. Okay? Visualize them. I will start off with Tom Cruise.
Client: Brad Pitt.
Stephen Travers: You like Brad Pitt, I see.
Client: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Stephen Travers: Let me see? Al Patino. Picture Al Patino.
Client: An oldie, Gregory Peck.
Stephen Travers: Oh yeah. He’s a great actor. Let me see Paul Newman.
Client: Oh my God. My mind is blocking.
Stephen Travers: That’s good. I’ll throw in another one. Elizabeth Taylor.
Client: Oh yeah. Elizabeth Taylor.
Stephen Travers: Really picture her in your mind. It can be an actor, an actress.
Client: Her husband, her ex Richard.
Stephen Travers: Richard Burton?
Client: Yeah. Richard Burton.
Stephen Travers: She married him three times, I think.
Client: Yeah.
Stephen Travers: Okay. Robert de Niro.
Client: Yes. oh my God. The one who played the boxer and who played the [inaudible] in the woods. Five. Rocky, Rocky, Rocky.
Stephen Travers: Oh, Sylvester Stallone.
Client: Sylvester Stallone. Oh, my head is. I can’t think anymore.
Stephen Travers: This is good. This is part of the distraction. Let me see, Pierce Brosnan, the Irish James Bond.
Client: Oh my God. I’m blocking again. The first one, the first James Bond.
Stephen Travers: Sean Connery.
Client: Sean Connery.
Stephen Travers: So do a few more James Bond then? Roger Moore.
Client: Yes. Roger Moore.
Stephen Travers: The new guy, if you visualize Daniel Craig,
Client: Daniel Craig. Yes. That’s the one I’m searching for.
Stephen Travers: And then there was Timothy Dalton.
Client: Timothy Dalton. Yes. For one film, I believe. Yeah.
Stephen Travers: I think it was two, I’m a bit of a, I watched James Bond as a child quite a bit in the eighties, nineties. So I think he did two Timothy Dalton, and George Lazenby. He did one.
Client: Oh yeah. George Lazenby. Yes.
Stephen Travers: Yeah. Remember the James Bond music. Let’s hum the James Bond music together for the fun of it. Just close your eyes. Keep stroking. Open up your eyes. You’re doing great. And then gently look at my finger and move your eyes lastly all the way over to the right, and to the left. That’s it, all the way over to the right, to the left, to the right, to the left, to the right, to the left. Close your eyes and take in a slow gentle breaths.
Client: Oh God.
Stephen Travers: Okay. Keep stroking, on a scale of 10 to zero. What number comes to mind now?
Client: Two.
Stephen Travers: Two. Okay, good. Now look at me. Now we’re going to gently move to our face. This is like gently washing the face. Interestingly, the face produces the highest amplitude of [inaudible] waves in the brain. 90 times more than. So soft and gentle stroking. That’s it. The forhead and the cheeks. I’m going to do another little distraction technique, but this time we’re going do famous musicians or bands. If that’s okay. Or artists? If you’re okay with that. I’ll start off with Fleetwood Mac.
Client: The Stones.
Stephen Travers: Yeah, The Beatles.
Client: Oh, that’s an old one, the Dossy Doy Bic and the last one I remember that’s, they’re old. The Monkeys.
Stephen Travers: Oh yeah. The monkeys. They were the sixties. Weren’t they? Yeah. Let see Duran Duran. That’s the eighties. Frank Sinatra.
Client: Frank Sinatra. Yes.
Stephen Travers: Pavarotti. U2.
Client: U2. Yes, U2. And of course U2. You say Sting?
Stephen Travers: Yeah. Sting, Abba.
Client: Abba. Yes. Abba.
Stephen Travers: David Hasselhoff, I think he was big in Germany at one point. Used to be in Baywatch. Top artists for a while.
Client: Greece. The film Greece.
Stephen Travers: Oh yeah. You’re thinking of John Travolta. Yeah. Famous songs. Yeah. Brittany Spears.
Client: Brittney Spears. Yes.
Stephen Travers: Robin Williams. The spice girls.
Client: The Spice Girls. Yes. Aritha Franklin.
Stephen Travers: Yeah. Good. Elvis Presley.
Client: Elvis Presley. Yes.
Stephen Travers: The Doors.
Client:The Doors. Cliff Richard.
Stephen Travers: Yeah. Cliff Richard. We’re all going on summer holidays. Let me see, The Coors.
Client: Yeah. Oh yeah. The Coors. Yes.
Stephen Travers: Good. Now I’d like you to sing happy birthday with me, for the fun of it.
Both: Happy Birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear Stephan. Happy Birthday to you. Happy Birthday to you, happy birthday to you. Happy birthday dear Stephan. Happy Birthday to you.
Stephen Travers: Very good. Now gently move back down to your arms. Look at me, soft and gentle. Nice and easy. You’re giving yourself a little hug and then open up your eyes. Look at my finger again. Let’s just gently move your eyes to the right, and to the left, and to the right, and to the left, and to the right, left, right, left, right, left, right, left right. Now you gently close your eyes. Keep stroking. Nice gentle strokes. Scale of 10 to zero. What number comes to mind now?
Client: Zero.
To view another Havening trauma demo on a fear of flying from one of our live training events see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sofh1HdwdTI
Havening Trauma Debrief
Stephen Travers: Okay, now keep stroking. And you can open up your eyes, take a little stretch if you wish. Okay, we’re going to have a little chat in a moment. And we’ll do a debrief. I think, you know, you call it a test as well. I know we call it test or debrief. We call it a debrief in Havening. First of all, how are you feeling right now? Just in your mind, your head, your body, at this moment, Marie?
Client: Much more calm. Relaxed, much more relaxed because now I’m so relaxed during the session. I felt all the tension gone away. I can’t see you anymore. There’s someone named Cisco on the.
Stephen Travers: Cisco, make sure you are on mute or I’ll throw you outta the meeting. I’m only joking. I’m only joking have, excuse my, but my weird sense of humor. Okay. So Marie, so yeah, you’re saying a lot of the tension left you and you’re feeling more calmer and you’re feeling more relaxed. Okay. Are you feeling tired or Spacey or how’s your body actually feeling?
Client: As if my whole system is going like this. Ah, yeah. Yeah, like I’m sinking like a mermaid in the waters down and relaxed. Yeah. My body is feeling good and relaxed.
Stephen Travers: Yeah. It’s like a metaphor where you just said like sinking down in the water’s like a mermaid. Okay. Interesting. Okay. So we’re going to do a debrief cause like that was really high. That was like a 10, that was maximum trauma, extremely distressed. You could see the reaction as well within you, that somatic feeling was there.
So when your ready, just close your eyes and let’s debrief and take your time and just go back to that same memory that we started on about 10 minutes ago or so. And let’s just see what the difference is now when you picture it and how you feel take your time. And when you’re ready, tell me what’s different in terms of how you remember it and how you feel.
Client: I see the room and I can see my aunties and my uncle, but I’m having trouble with seeing my mother.
Stephen Travers: Okay, good. Are you still in the picture or are you from the outside looking in at the memory?
Client: I’m not sure? It’s actually two rooms, the living and the dining room. And as if I stand between those two rooms looking at that room and the people in it.
Stephen Travers: Okay. And you were saying, you can’t see your mother?
Client: Not, not very well. I know she’s there, but.
Stephen Travers: Okay. And on that memory on scale of 10 to zero, where are you now? How you feeling?
Client: Yeah. Zero. Yeah. Because a little feeling of a smile inside.
Stephen Travers: Good. Try and get the trauma back on the memory the way you had it, try and bring the trauma back. I know you’re obviously we’re chatting about that now, but try and bring it back the way you had it 10, 15 minutes ago. Just on that memory. What’s happening?
Client: I’m not going any further than when she asked me to come to her, that’s all I can. And afterwards I’m jumping back to that first moment, she calls my name to come to her.
Stephen Travers: Okay, good. On scale of 10 to zero, where are you feeling now?
Client: Zero. Still is zero. Yeah.
Stephen Travers: Gone.
Client: Yeah.
Stephen Travers: Focus for about 10, 12 minutes, I think.
Client: Okay. Yeah.
Stephen Travers: Good.
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